MAKING A LIFE OUT OF HOSPITALITY IN HOTELS, RESORTS AND INNS GIVES ME THE ABILITY TO SEE HOSPITALITY DEMONSTRATED EVERYWHERE, OR NOT.
All of us drive, ride a bike or walk. Are we demonstrating to the world our hospitality skills or our ability to dance, or are we letting our rudeness just hang-out? I am shocked by the total lack of 'politesse' in the developed world.
Driving a car is no excuse for not demonstrating politesse.... or dancing instead of barging. In fact there are all sorts of ways that one can say 'thank you', 'you are so kind' or '....after you' .............unless you have tinted windows which is the motorised version of a burka. Its not illegal, it has a use for the user but it is not exactly very social.
When I was reinventing hospitality at Cirque du Soleil, the opportunities for entertaining touch-points were described as winks, or moments when an entertaining, amusing, eye catching thing happens but is not a major event. It is not thrown at you, it just catches the eye. This opportunity exists while driving, biking and walking.
Barging is charging by baffoons. Charging is the act of moving forward regardless of what's in your way. Barging is the same thing, I think. You can barge in a car, on a bike or on foot.
Riding a bike is another opportunity to dance. The right place for a cycle is on the road, either on the right or on the left, not both and never diagonally, regardless of where you are going or who you have seen. The side-walk is for walking, it is not a side-cycle. The cross-walk is a for walking it is not a cross-cycle. Opportunities abound for a gesture of communicating 'after you' or 'thank you'.
Walking is also an opportunity to dance ..........and to show hospitality to those around you and requires just as much anticipation, braking, accelaration and positive gestures of communication as one would use in a car, truck or on a bike. However, how many times am I leaping out of the way of a group of pedestrians taking the whole sidewalk or dodging rolling suitcases adjacent to the walker.
Umbrellas talk as well. Umbrellas that raise up when passing oncomers say `let me shade you a bit`, 'I really care for your wellbeing'. Those that charge forward with no dip left or right are expressions of beligerance, dangerous to the eyes and menacing expressions of ME!
The signs for communication are plentiful and the tools of our anatomy that can be used include the eyes, the mouth, the head, the arm, the hand, the foot and the brain. If any of my readers are missing any one of these, the chances are that one of the others members of their anatomy will compensate. There are other tools that we can use to express our emotions which include the lights, the horn and the bicycle bell.
Here are my top ten ways to move about town hospitably.
- Hold the door open if anyone is following you, even if it is an extra few seconds. Allow them through first. The 5 seconds you invest are not wasted
- Lift one hand, fingers together and straight.... in thanks for a vehicle that has pulled over to allow you to pass. It costs nothing and creates a pleasant after-taste.
- If walking or biking with another person, fall into single file when passing others. Eye contact and smile while passing is also rewarding. It is neighbourly and everyone does it in the countryside.
- Flash your lights at night to signal a vehicle from behind to pass. It's just a common courtesy.
- While biking, use hand signals for turning. The life you save may be your own. The signal you send also reflects well on all bikers.
- When walking on a side street, 'good morning' everyone!
- Hold the elevator for anyone in sight.
- In an elevator, say something!
In most developing countries, the horn is their voice. It is used as a language and it is different from Delhi to Dakar.
- One small, short beep can mean
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- Hi, I'm here and want to pass.
- Thanks!
- I'm passing you but it looks safe to me.
- Hi my friend, can't stop but Hi anyway.
- Slightly longer but after a short beep can mean,
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- I'm still here and waiting to pass. Help me!
- Move over please, you're in the middle.
- Long and persistent says,
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- Get out of the way, you are being unreasonable.
- We won the match! We are the champions.
- I'm coming through your village and you are on the road, please jump if you value your life.
- Goats, get out of my way!
In the developed world we have not learned to speak with our horns. Most of the time it can be interpreted as,
- You cut ME off and I am about to slam into you, you silly fool.
- What kind of crazy driver are you, jumping in front of ME like that.
- That's MY parking space!
- I am so frustrated by your driving, this is my only form of release.
All of this to say that life is or should be more about us than me, more about you than me and how can I make your day better because in return, you will make my week!!
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